by Tamar Caspi under
Date Night,
Relationships
Going on dates, being someone’s significant other, and just being an all-around good friend means that you need to be a good listener.
When you’re on a date, it’s normal to chime in with a “me too!” when you’re looking for commonalities, but make sure you allow the other person to complete their thought. When you’re in a relationship, it’s normal to become a sounding board and to chime in with advice — but sometimes it’s best to just be there as a symbolic shoulder. Being a good friend does not always mean needing to speak, but instead just allowing the other person to talk and feel heard.
Listening is a skill. Learn it. It will come in handy in your love life and many other areas of life.
by GemsFromJen under
JBloggers,
Relationships
I know in my own dating life one of my basic wants has always been to have someone really listen to me. Most of the men I have dated seem to be lacking in this skill. Listening is a fine art in my opinion, one that can be learned. Listening means really hearing what the other person is saying. I know in my own personal life men like to “fix” situations and would rather avoid hearing my problems. I truly want someone who is just going to hear me. Sometimes it feels good to vent without being offered suggestions, guidance, solutions, or advice. Most of my female friends seem to have the same desire I do, to be genuinely heard. They all want to be in a relationship with someone who can truly listen. So guys, the next time a woman starts sharing her problems with you, take it as a compliment that she really does trust you and try just listening. You may be surprised by the results!