Top 10 Member Questions:
Q. What does each icon represent?
A. For a complete list of icons and what they mean, go to our Icon Help page.
Q. What is Flirt? How many times can I Flirt with someone?
A. A Flirt is a quick, fun way to let someone know you're interested. You pick a one-liner from our list of Flirts, and it's sent to the member of your choice. The member gets the Flirt in his or her onsite email Inbox and then can go to your profile and Flirt back with you. You can send up to 30 Flirts a day, but each member can only be Flirted with once.
All members can send Flirts for free. If you'd like to take it a step further, we suggest becoming a Subscriber so you can exchange emails and start up real conversations.
Q. How do I change my email address or password?
A. You can change your email address or password on your account page.
- Click on Your Account in the upper right corner of the page
- Click Change Your Email or Password under the "Profile" section
- Update your email and/or password and click "Save" to update
Q. How do I keep other members from knowing that I looked at their profile or added them to one of my Lists?
A. If you don't want other members to know when you've looked at their profile or Listed them, go to Profile Display Settings under Your Account and select "hide" in the section called "Show/Hide When You View Or Hot List Members."
Keep in mind that members who are most active on the site keep their profile visible in all places because it ups their chances of connecting with people. You never know, someone special may be looking for you but never find you if your profile is hidden.
Lists have been a real hit on our sites and have helped bring some unsuspecting couples together! People keep telling us that they contact people simply because they saw in the Lists that a member looked at their profile. So before you hit "hide," give it a chance to work.
Q. Why do members want to know when I look at their profile or save them to a List?
A. Members who are really active on the site like to let other members know when they look at their profile or List them because it livens things up and often breaks the ice when it comes to emailing.
So many times we hear that one member contacted someone simply because they saw that that person had looked at their profile or Listed them. Members also say that their Lists lead them to meet members that they might not have seen in a search otherwise.
Think about it. If you saw that someone had Listed you and you liked what you saw, wouldn't you be more likely to send an email?
Q. Why does my List counter change?
A. Half of your Lists tell you your activity on the site. Every time you look at or contact another member, it shows up in your Lists and the numbers go up accordingly.
The other half of your Lists tell you about other members looking at your profile or emailing or teasing you. Every time someone looks at your profile or contacts you, it shows up in your Lists and the numbers go up accordingly. Keep in mind, however, that some members choose to hide their profile from showing up in your Lists.
Also, in order to keep your Lists up-to-date, we periodically clean out the members that have been in your "viewed" List for a while. This also changes the counter.
Q. Do people actually meet on your site? Do they ever get married?
A. Thousands of people meet on our site daily and go on to date and start relationships. We've also had tens of thousands of marriages across many borders. To see for yourself, check the site for real stories of real connections.
Q. When someone sends me a message, where does it go and how do I respond?
A. When a member sends you a note, it goes straight into your onsite message Inbox. We then send an email to your personal email address to let you know that it's there.
To read the note, simply login to the site and go to your Inbox. If you decide to write back, simply click "reply" in the member's note, write your own note and send away. Your note will go straight into the member's onsite Inbox, and we'll let them know it's there with an email to their personal email address.
All communications with other members stay onsite so that you never have to give out any personal information until you feel completely ready. Then when you are, you can exchange phone numbers and even meet in person.
Q. How do I edit my profile? How do I hide my profile?
A. To update your profile, go to Your Profile at the top of the page. Click "Edit" next to the section you'd like to update. Be sure to save your changes at the bottom of the screen when you're done.
Try to put your best foot forward with at least one photo and snappy, detailed essays. The photo is key since most people feel more comfortable writing to members they can see. Try to stay positive in your essays and let the real you shine.
To hide your profile, go to Profile Display Settings in Your Account. Keep in mind, however, that members who are most active on the site keep their profile visible in all places because it ups their chances of connecting with people. And you never know, someone special may be looking for you and never get to find you if your profile is hidden.
Q. If I remove my profile, will it end my subscription? Can I put my subscription on hold?
A. No. Once you purchase a subscription, it will remain active for the remainder of your initial term.