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Aug 5

The Profile

by GemsFromJen under JBloggers,Online Dating

Dear Gems from Jen,
Hello, I have enjoyed your site for about a month now. I like the way it is set up and all the wonderful features. One feature tells me how many people have seen my profile. I noticed that 100 men have viewed my profile, yet no takers. I have two pretty photos there and an essay that I put a lot of thought into.
 
I know it only takes one good match, but I was wondering if there is something wrong with my profile. Maybe the problem is that I am a 52 year old separated woman with a 12 year old. I can’t figure out “what’s wrong.” I am open to any advice – Madeline

Dear Madeline,
 
100 men, wow! Do yourself a favor and re-read through your profile. Pictures are only one part of the story. Are you explaining who you are and what you can offer to a potential relationship? Have you captured the true essence of what you are really about? Do you explain what it is you are looking for? Are you too specific? Are you too vague? Your profile advertises who you are and you want to ensure that you represent yourself in the best possible light.
 
As for your status as being separated I can see why that might pose a problem for some men. I would make sure that in your profile you make it very clear that you are moving forward with your divorce and are not looking for a rebound relationship.  Let your profile viewers know that you are serious about finding a potential mate. Having a 12- year-old may not appeal to every man, but you have a child and there are men out there who do not have a problem meeting and dating someone with a child. Your child is your first priority and the two of you are a package deal. Make sure you make this point very clear in your profile.
 
Signed,
 
Gems from Jen

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Apr 22

Should You Date Them If They Are Separated?

by GemsFromJen under Online Dating,Relationships,Single Life

Dear Gems from Jen,

I have never wanted to date separated men because I’ve felt they were unavailable. Well, I fell into a relationship with one who also has shared custody of a 6-year-old. We have an unbelievable connection but after a year and a half, there is only small progress toward a divorce. He wants 100% commitment from me, yet he can only give me 50% because he is not yet divorced. I have ended the relationship. I was right; my investment in a separated man was risky and futile. Are there any good rules/boundaries when entering into a relationship with someone who is separated?

Signed,

Should You Date Them if They are Separated

Dear Should You Date Them if They are Separated,

Separation is a tricky business. I believe the first consideration needs to be if they have children or not. Any good parent will put their children before their dating experiences. That is not to say that parents are not entitled to be happy and enjoy a fulfilling love life, but rather that the children need to be their first priority. Find out what the visitation/custody arrangements are and how you, the dating partner, can fit into their life.

The next step is to ask questions: How long have they been separated? Where are they in the divorce process? Is there a chance of reconciliation? I have a very close friend who has been separated from her husband for over four years. The reason they have not ended the marriage is financial, not because there is any hope of reconciliation. This does not necessarily mean that every separated person is prolonging a divorce due to financial considerations. But, it does happen with some couples from time to time.

Many people I work with who have gone through a divorce or are separated tend to be commitment shy. Again, ask questions. They may not be ready to settle down just yet. It could be that they are just seeing what is out there and weighing their options. Know what you want in terms of a commitment. If you are looking for a long-term relationship/marriage make sure you know what you are getting yourself into and do not give up your wants/needs in order to settle for something less. Only give 100% if the person you are dating is willing to give 100%, too.

Otherwise, the relationship is doomed.

Signed,
Gems from Jen

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