by Tamar Caspi 
under
Date Night,
Online Dating,
Single Life
If you’re not on 100hookup, and you’re not going to singles events, and you’re not going to hookup events, and you’re not letting people know you’re interested in being set-up, and you’re not going out at night with friends… then you can’t blame anyone else for your singledom because you’re not making the effort to change your own fate.
If you are going on dates with a wall built taller than you could metaphorically reach, and you aren’t letting your date get to know you, and you are walking into a date expecting it to go bad… then you can’t blame anyone else for your singledom because you’re not making the effort to change your own fate.
The phrase “fake it ’til you make it” comes into play here. Being single is tough, but you can’t let prospects know that you are fed-up and frustrated with dating. You need to smile and put yourself out there and pretend like you don’t mind your current circumstances until they change.
by Tamar Caspi under
Judaism,
Relationships
You can buy a bouquet of roses from the market, or you can purchase the seeds of your girlfriend’s favorite flower along with soil and a pot so that she has an ongoing reminder of your thoughtfulness.
You can suggest a local brewery for date night, or you can get your boyfriend that online deal to learn how to make craft beer at home.
Oftentimes we overlook those subtle hints which could really help make your significant other feel special, loved, and appreciated. Listen for the things that your partner won’t ask for, but you know they like — whether that be a specific food or drink, an outfit (A man in a suit? Always hot!), a location (The peak of a mountain at sunset? So romantic!), and of course there’s also gift-giving.
This holiday season, make the effort to give the special someone in your life a gift that’s just as special. It doesn’t have to be expensive, or even store-bought, just something to let the person know that you are listening.
by Tamar Caspi under
Relationships
“You’re going to come across people in your life who will say all the right things at all the right times. But in the end, it’s always your actions you should judge them by. It’s actions, not words, that matter.”
-Nicholas Sparks
Yes, the author of the above quote is the same man who has written a dozen sappy novels including The Notebook, and yet, it’s the truth regardless of who penned the sentences. Actions do speak louder than words. You can say “I love you” until you’re blue in the face, but it’s how you treat the person to whom you’re saying it that truly matters. If you are not respectful, compassionate, and affectionate of the person you are saying “I love you” to, then you are not acting like a loving person.
Showing appreciation, expressing excitement or empathy for what is going on in your partner’s life, interlacing your fingers with theirs when they least expect it, buying them their favorite treat when you’re at the grocery store, or whatever else is meaningful to them — just make the effort to express how you feel throughout the day in your behavior and attitude.
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