by Tamar Caspi 
under
Relationships
Tamar,
What if you’re dating someone and see them on 100hookup and even updating their profile… what should you do??
Dear 100hookup and Your New Date,
If you’re dating someone and you see them on 100hookup, well, that means you’re on 100hookup too! But I know that’s beside the point. If you see your new date on 100hookup and you want to take the next step to get more serious then you need to just have that conversation with them. I wouldn’t tell them that you saw that they were recently active on 100hookup because then you will just be condemning yourself, but say that you have recently pulled your profile in the hopes of this relationship going somewhere. If you’ve seen that the person actually updated their profile then you may be getting a subliminal message. If you don’t want to take the hint, then just ask point blank — at this point you have nothing to lose. But make sure to maintain your composure and class, you don’t want anyone going around telling people that you’re some psycho stalker.
by JeremySpoke under
Date Night,
Online Dating
I recently agreed on a date with a girl for the middle of the work-week. The night before, she texted me that she had to reschedule because her grandmother was sick. This was perfectly acceptable. I wished her grandmother well and waited for her to contact me again. Three years later, I decided to stop waiting and went ahead with my life again. I had gained 90 pounds, and had pushed away all of my family and friends in anticipation of our rescheduled date. Once I realized she wasn’t going to contact me again, I went to go get some food.
A little while later, after making a date with a different girl, she texted me a few hours before the date telling me that her dog was murdered. This time, especially after what had happened before, I was skeptical. I was also skeptical because unlike a sick grandmother, which is mostly believable, a murdered dog, though incredibly sad, seems slightly less believable. I told her that I hoped she was okay and this time only waited one year for a response that never came.
A few days ago, twenty minutes before a date, I got a text from the date telling me that she had to reschedule because she had just won the Powerball and was moving to LA. I am not waiting for this one. But seriously, I’m still up for a date. I will even pay. Save your winnings.
by AndyCowan under
Online Dating,
Relationships
As his Meet the Press predecessor, Tim Russert, did before him, David Gregory likes to go to the videotape to highlight a guest’s past inconsistencies.
“You say you’re in favor of the bill, Senator. But in 2011 on this very program, you said you were against the bill. Roll the tape.” After tape ends, the senator replies… “Well, David, I’m not having a good morning. But a few minutes ago, you in fact wished me a good morning. Roll the tape.”
What if we could roll the tape in our relationships? “You say you like French restaurants and traveling to Australia, Susan. But in 2011 on your 100hookup profile, you wrote ‘low maintenance kind of gal.’ Roll the tape.”
Let’s hope she doesn’t go to the tape of when you said you were a ‘go with the flow kind of guy.’
by Tamar Caspi under
Online Dating,
Relationships
Tamar,
How do you deal with the question, “Why are you still on 100hookup?” after you’ve been dating for a month? How long after you’re dating someone should you pull your profile?
Thanks!
Dear 100hookup and Your New Date,
There’s no timetable for when you should pull your profile. You could be dating someone for a month but only have seen them a few times. You could be dating someone for a week but have seen them everyday. You have to pull your 100hookup profile when you feel ready to make a commitment to your new date. If you’re just on a few dates and are still getting to know each other then there’s no reason to feel the pressure to pull your profile. If you’re getting serious emotionally and physically then you should probably have a conversation with your partner about becoming exclusive. It’s really easy to cyberstalk your new prospect by checking when the last time they logged in to 100hookup, but try really hard to restrain yourself. By the way, when you are cyberstalking them, you are also logging in! If you really like someone and don’t feel like logging in because you want to give that person your full attention, then don’t — but don’t automatically assume your date is going to do the same thing.
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