Join for Free
|◄JBlog Home
May 1

Married Men

by GemsFromJen under Relationships

How can I stop obsessing over a married man?
 
Dear Obsessing,
 
This is such a difficult part of life for which I wish there was an easy answer.  There isn’t, I’m afraid. Our hearts tend to drive us, rather than our brains.
 
The first things that needs to be looked at are the reasons as to why you are obsessing over this man. What need is he fulfilling for you? Start by tracking the thoughts that keep playing over and over in your head about this man. What triggers these thoughts?  It might help to jot this information down for a few weeks so that you can identify the patterns in your thinking.
 
Make the decision that this is not a healthy way to live and at the very least, get rid of any mementos that you have that remind you of him. For instance, pictures, gifts, letters, e-mails, etc.
 
Write a good-bye letter to him.  Don’t send it, but write it out in great detail.  State all the reasons as to why you need to let this relationship go. Keep it with you at all times so that you can refer back to the letter when feelings of nostalgia or melancholy wash over you. 
 
Don’t take his calls. Don’t respond to texts or e-mails.  Don’t make contact with this man.  I know how difficult and final this might sound, but continued contact will only prolong these thoughts.
 
Surround yourself with friends and family who are supportive of you.  If these thoughts continue, you might want to consider talking to someone so that you have an outlet and can learn to replace these obsessive thoughts with productive thoughts.
 
A married partner whether male or female is just that–married. Any way that you look at it, this person is cheating.  Always remember, if they are willing to cheat on their current spouse, they are capable of cheating on you as well.
 
Signed,
 
Gems from Jen

Tags: ,

best app to find hookups

It s not even a rule you have to set for oneself you re just interested in one man at a time. If you do not like him enough to date only him, then you certainly don t like him adequate to be in a partnership. You know what you like, and when you come across it, you are happy because one man is much more than adequate. If you want to have sex, uncover an individual you really want to have sex with and go house with them. rubratings lv Pretty niche, the complete location revolves about dating mature ladies. Next up is one of the largest communities for open minded singles on the web. Adult Friend Finder, or AFF, is the fantastic atmosphere for older women to discover excitingly. Continue on into cuffing season with our major dating site picks. You appear like you could use a small much more support, positivity, and warmth correct now. Oyster slurping fool, shameless cat person, newbie hiker. Go now, just before everybody finds out and couples up. spdate profiles The only grief I have with the app even though is that when attempting to message someone, it generally shows that the message is just sent as an alternative of it getting delivered . It kinda kills the experience for me simply because it s tends to make it hard to actually connect with everyone on there which is the purpose of the app in the 1st spot. I hope they can repair that problem if it is happening for other people as properly. There is maybe no greater genre of guilty pleasure Tv than reality dating shows. Each one contains hours of more than the top rated drama with genuine persons experiencing the vicissitudes of enjoy for our entertainment. And even if we can t relate to a lot of these persons there are about a dozen motives we would in no way go on Really like Is Blind, you know?