Single for Nine Years
under 100hookupI have been single and celibate for 9 years, mostly due to illness. However, I’ve since recovered and am looking to get back into life again. How do I explain my absence?
Dear Sylvia,
Let me begin with mazel tov to you on your recovery and jumping back into the dating pool! 100hookup is a great way to start this process.
My suggestion: be open and honest. Relationships are built on trust, it’s that simple. It sounds to me as if you may not be comfortable with your own absence. There is no shame in being out of the dating scene and getting back into it, no matter the reason. Everyone is entitled to find true happiness and you are no exception.
Not everyone has to know everything from the get go. However, if you are asked, feel a connection, and feel comfortable with the questioner, tell the truth. Getting to know someone is a process. Focus on the present moment and what it is you are looking for in a potential partner. Explaining your absence will come in time, be patient and be aware that it is not necessary to defend your absence to every person who is a potential match. Take pleasure in your renewed health and enjoy these new dating experiences.
Signed,
Gems From Jen