Giving Up on Giving a Guy a Chance
under Date Night,100hookup,Relationships,Single LifeDear Tamar,
There’s this guy I met on 100hookup about a year ago and we went out for a while; even though he definitely saw a future with me, I never felt there was a future, so I broke it off. I dated a few guys since then, and although there was more chemistry, they didn’t treat me as well and there were lots of other issues. I keep thinking back to that first guy, and wonder if I should give him a second chance to see if the attraction grows. What do you think?
-Give a Guy a Chance?
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Dear Give a Guy a Chance,
You can’t force attraction, but you should allow yourself to open up to things that feel different. That initial attraction is often lust, which can dissipate over time. Being treated well and having a relationship grow based on respect and commonalities can create a much deeper bond and attraction. But, if you’ve given it a fair shake and there’s just something missing, then it’s only fair to the both of you to break it off again.
Be honest and be kind — this man has now been vulnerable with you twice.