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 In my previous blog entry I discussed how Facebook is becoming directly tied to online dating. Women will frequently want to check your Facebook to see if you are who you really say you are before providing a phone number.

Today I would like to talk about ways to make your Facebook account is worthy of those who check them. We want to update our profile with as many attraction builders as possible and avoid attraction killers at the same time. The following are a few suggestions for doing so:

1. Update your photo galleries. Infuse the pictures with attraction builders that create demand and high social value.

 2. Take down tagged photos that possess attraction killers. We don’t want any negative photos reducing attraction, showing us in a bad light, or making women think we are not exactly the most ideal candidates for a relationship.

3. Fix up that wall. If you have comments that show you in a bad light, take them down. On the flip side, keep comments that build value, especially ones from other women.

4. Don’t have too many messages from other women. Messages from multiple women show’s value (value is a key part of attraction building). Too many messages  will  make you look like a player and potentially have a negative effect.

Follow these guidelines and keep your Facebook profile in check.  These days this is more important than ever.

There is a new trend sweeping across the online dating world that is not going to slow down any time soon.

I refer to this as:  The Facebook identity check

The Facebook identity check is when a woman asks for your Facebook information prior to that final step of giving out her phone number.

The reason for this is she wants to ensure that you are who you really claim to be.  In addition, this will enable her to assess your personality, see what your interactions with friends are like, and judge who you truly are, as opposed to who you claim to be on dating sites.

It is very easy for people to be deceptive through online dating sites and trick potential daters.

On the flip side, it is very hard to be deceptive on Facebook unless you religiously monitor what is being tagged, commented, etc.

So guys, get your Facebook in check because this can make or break you.  Especially if your pick up comes during an instant messaging conversation.

All you males out there should also incorporate all the critical online dating tips of building attraction through your Facebook profiles (as we discussed how to do in previous blogs). Doing this is will not only prevent a last second fumble, but will take attraction to new levels.

Every guy knows the awful feeling of walking up to a woman at a bar and being rejected.  Unless you have extremely solid self esteem, this can cripple you mentally, shatter confidence and make you want to give up picking up women altogether. 

Perhaps even worse than the actual rejection is the mocking of your pick up by friends, or other people at the bar who witnessed your rejection.

This humilation often leads to men fearing any type of public approach.

In actuality, this mocking by others is probably because these men are too scared to do it themselves and take their inadequecies out on others. 

This is why I always suggest surrounding yourself with people that are supportive and will encourage you.

What does this have to do with online dating?  Online dating should be no different. 

The way we improve our online pick up skills is not only by studying, practicing, and learning the art of online pick up, but by sharing and learning from others, as well.

Having a strong support system that is there to help will contribute ideas, point out mistakes, and steer you in the right direction. You will also gain confidence even when things go less than perfect with your online pick up.

This support system will not only pick you up when you are down, but will be a huge asset to improving your game.  You can even find this type of support through online dating forums if you do not know anybody involved.

So surround yourself with others who are both positive and  into online pick up.  It will only benefit you long term.

Scenario: Another night is about to begin. You hang up the phone, inform your date you’re on your way, pump those last two sprays of your favorite cologne on, and head out for a great potential date, full of hope and promise.

As you pull up to your date with a smile on your face, the smile slowly turns upside down and a sinking feeling in your stomach forms.

WHO IS THIS PERSON?

Anyone who has been online dating for long enough knows the feeling of meeting someone online that turns out to look nothing like their pictures.

Let’s face it, there are a lot of liars and deceivers out there. And while we can never completely avoid these people, there are definitely certain measures we can take to limit our exposure to these situations.

The following online dating tips are three red flags to look out for before meeting your date:

1. Every picture looks completely different. If you can’t figure out who the “real” person you are talking to is, avoid the date.

2. The pictures are taken at strange angles. Most of the time, strange angles mean the person is hiding something. There is nothing wrong with being heavy, but there IS something wrong with being deceptive about it.

3. There is only one profile picture. One picture means this person probably has something to hide or can’t find more than one decent picture of him or herself.

Look for these signs because they are often profile picture red flags!

In the last blog entry I discussed the importance of showing that you are a somebody of high value in society.  This is a great tool that will trigger a woman’s interest, gain her attention and, consequently, make her more attracted to you.

The reason is simple:  You are establishing that you are someone special in society whom other people want to be around.  Valuable people are not only valuable to society, but valuable to women, as well, making you someone that they will want to be around.

Today I will discuss one way that you can establish this value in the online dating world.

Use your profile pictures.

Profile pictures shouldn’t merely be used to show pictures of yourself in a flattering light.   While they should look good, photos are also a great opportunity to establish value.

Find profile pictures that show you in a light that draws women to you. 

Maybe you were at a part,  surrounded by some beautiful women, and you have a picture of it.  This shows you have value among beauitful women and are used to being surrounded by women. 

Do you have a great job, where you attend events that not many people get to go to?  This again shows value.

Maybe you have a great car that you have a picture of yourself standing next to.  Again, value.

There are a million and one ways to show value within your pictures.  Get into the habit of doing so and you will find women will be more drawn to your pictures online and, consequently, more into you!

Welcome back the attraction building portion of this blog. 

For those of you who are not familiar with my attraction building blogs, I have previously discussed in great detail that there are 10 different ways that all of us could attract women no matter what we look like.

Why?  To put it simply, the female mind is evolutionarily wired in a completely different way than the male mind and females respond to completely different things than we do.

Today I will be discussing one of the best ways to build attraction, and possibly one of the most important:  Showing high value.

Showing high value simply means having  the ability to appear as if you are someone that society holds in high regard. 

Not only do women respond to men who appear to be in high value, but you are simeltanously showing a number of things about yourself:

• Other people want and enjoy being around you.
• Society has a high respect for you so there must be something special about you.
• And simply, you are a valuable person.

All women want to be with someone that others will be impressed with, that they can show off, and that they can stand tall with, proud to call their significant other.

If you are someone that is of high value to society then you fit into these desires and consequently become a man worth chasing.

So how do we do we show this through online dating?  In the next blog I will teach you a trick or two on how to establish this value.

Most people in life live fairly logical lives.  We are presented with a decision and then must decide logically which decision is worth making.

These types of situations often occur on a date.  We may be having an outstanding time with a beautiful woman and want to extend the date.  It’s starts getting kind of late and the question pops up,

“So do you want to come over?” or “You want to do something else?”

This is where the rational part of the female mind steps in thinking of all the reasons why she should not come over.

“I have work tomorrow.” “I haven’t yet been to this person’s home, I feel uncomfortable.”  Etc.

When trying to present opposing reasons as to why these women should hang out anyway in a reasonable manner, it will be a lost cause.

Saying things such as, “You will be home early don’t worry about it.”  “I only live five minutes away.”  Or “Don’t worry, my house is in a great neighborhood” are a wasted cause.

Instead, you need to go on emotions.  Make the date so fun that she will throw rationality out the window.  Build attraction to such intense levels that she won’t care whether it’s a good idea.  Emotions are how to win over beautiful women, not rationality.  When people have enough fun they just do not care whether or not staying up until all hours is the most responsible thing because the sacrifice is worth it.

Master the art of doing so, and you will find your online pick up success increasing every day.

Instant messaging is one of the most advanced forms of online dating.  It requires quick thinking and the ability to sustain high levels of interest amongst great competition.

Most men mistakenly believe that the line you open with is the most important aspect of an instant messaging conversation.  The truth of the matter is, it is actually what comes after the instant message opener that really matters most.

The basic reason for this is that if a woman decides to open your instant message, odds are she will write back at least a courtesy response or hello.  It is after this initial response that it is time to play ball.

The follow-up needs to be something that will ignite immediate interest, build attraction levels and win over your potential date.  Instant messaging is a fast and furious game where women will lose interest if the pick up is not done correctly.

The only way this is done is by learning effective transition techniques and story builders that allow these things to happen naturally during the course of an online pick-up.   Not only should learning how to transition be treated with utmost importance, but a successful online dater learns how to amp up the excitement more and more as each moment passes by.

Think of online pick-ups as an emotional snowball.  We want the emotional highs to get bigger and bigger as we roll that snowball down hill.

This should be done throughout three of the four stages of instant message game, until we finally begin to build higher comfort levels.

I’m out of room for today.  More next time!

Most people that struggle during online dating often worry about what they must do to improve their online dating skills directly.  And for good reason.  Learning how to build attraction, generate high interest, and strategies to push past the competition is extremely important for any advanced online dater.

However, sometimes it is good to work on aspects of yourself that are not directly related to online dating techniques.  Occassionally having a nice mental boost and jump in self-confidence will do wonders for your success.  If we don’t feel good about ourselves, first and foremost, we won’t feel good on a date to the extent that we need to if we wish to be extremely confident, self assured and on point with our game.

So do things that improve your mental health.  Excercise.  Set time aside for your hobbies.  Get a new haircut.  Buy some new clothes.  Even something as small as drinking more water every day can improve your mental health and provide more energy.

Improving yourself is the first step that we all must take before improving our dating life.  Only when our confidence is at a high will we be fully equipped to succeed with women of the highest quality.

Today I would like to discuss infusing attraction builders into the stories that you tell during your online pick-ups. 

If you have been following my blog over the course of the year you are probably well aware that there are many different ways that you can build attraction in online dating through the profiles you write, the messages you send and the pictures you take.  Well, telling stories in your online pick-up or during your dates is no different and should be infused with plenty of attraction builders as well.

Telling stories should not be told merely to entertain.  They should be used to reveal aspects of yourself that you not only want the opposite sex to know, but that will build attraction at the same time.

For example, in recent discussions I mentioned how creating high social value for yourself builds attraction levels with your potential date.  Incorporate these principles into the story you are telling.  If you were on vacation last month and were comped a V.I.P. room or had a connection with the owner of a bar, slide these examples of high social value into your story.  If your job has high status in society or perks that society values, find a way to subtly mention that as part of your story.

Building social value is just one of ten ways to build attraction.  There are so many ways to use these attraction builders in the stories you tell to your advantage.  Be sure to do so and reap the benefits.  This is critical to achieving high success.