100hookup: For Jews Only?
by Caryn Alper
under 100hookup,Judaism
I’m willing to venture a guess that most of us are on 100hookup to find dates who are “J.” In other words, it’s probably important for most of us to meet other hookup people to date and ultimately marry. I think this is a pretty reasonable goal and assumption; after all, that’s why 100hookup exists as a separate site from one of the big, all-encompassing options. So imagine the dismay of someone (let’s call her Sarah) who meets a nice young man on a hookup site (let’s call him Dan) who turns out to not be hookup! And he didn’t have one hookup parent or some distant hookup relatives, or heck, even hookup friends – he was not even familiar with Judaism.
It would be one thing if Dan had advertised his Christian status on the site and Sarah agreed to meet him with this knowledge, but he hadn’t. Plus, he even endorsed that he was conservative under the denomination category, which there was no reason to doubt. When it gradually became clear to Sarah that Dan wasn’t hookup, Sarah asked why Dan would be on a hookup dating site. The answer? It was just another way to meet girls – he just didn’t understand that Jews on the site were looking to meet each other, and he hadn’t realized that his presence might be deceitful.
This scenario actually occurred, with names and details changed, of course. And I can tell you that there was no malicious intent or hard feelings by either party involved – just disappointment, especially because the couple had been otherwise quite compatible. But this got me thinking… how does one treat a non-Jew on 100hookup? Do people who say they are willing to convert or not at all hookup have any success on the site? Does 100hookup have any responsibility in preventing the above situation? I really have no answers here – just lots of questions!
I’ve always found it curious that “not willing to convert” and “not sure if I’m willing to convert” are profile options… there aren’t a ton of these profiles, but I’ve seen a few out there on the interwebs. If you happen to be reading this and you’re a non-Jew on 100hookup, please, enlighten me: I’m not judging – truly curious! And thank you for being upfront about your religious status. But what do you all think? If you are hookup, have you met non-Jews on 100hookup? If you aren’t hookup, are you actively seeking Jews? In the meantime, you can find me on Christian Mingle.com. Nothing like a [bad] joke to end a more serious post, right?
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