Archive for July, 2013

Last week I discussed How to Tell if A Girl Likes You, and I also made a video about the topic. This week let’s discuss how to keep a girl interested after the first date. Here are 3 great ways to keep her interested:

1) Always have something up your sleeve

The best way to keep her on the edge of her seat is to have random dates and events planned for the both of you. The second date should blow away the first date! Instead of dinner, take her on some adventure like a hike or remote picnic. Don’t let her know what you’re doing until the day of so she gets excited. These small things will always get her curious about what you have planned next.

2) Don’t be too overbearing

Texting and calling too often is not the way to a woman’s heart. It’s important to take things slow. Don’t go as far as to play hard to get, or else she’ll end up dating the next guy that comes along. But, you should take your time in setting up new plans. After the first date, you don’t need to rush into hitting her up. Take a few days and then check in. Just make sure you have something fun planned, as stated in #1.

3) Don’t rush the physical side, but know how to turn her on

Rushing into sex isn’t always the best idea. If you’re looking for a long-lasting relationship, then it’s better to take things slow. Yes, you need to turn her on during the courting process (i.e. kiss her softly, lead her into the restaurant with your hand on her lower back, give her a good massage when she comes over to your place). This will be a good way to keep the passion burning and ensure she comes back for more!

If you can follow these 3 steps, you can help to ensure she stays interested in you and, hopefully, get that much closer to entering a healthy, fun relationship. Leave a comment below if you have any other ideas!

1. Amar’e Stoudemire Heads to the Chuppah (Again)!

The wedding bells apparently never stopped ringing for Amar’e Stoudemire and his wife Alexis. The two originally got married nearly seven months ago on 12-12-12 in front of an audience of (you guessed it) 12 people at their New York City home – now the happy couple has decided to extend their wedding-day bliss by throwing a second ceremony and a large reception in Miami last Saturday.

“Great weekend with friends and family. Alexis and I are so blessed and grateful,” Stoudemire, 30, Tweeted Monday, sharing a wedding photo.

The New York Knick announced in 2010 that he had hookup roots on his mother’s side, leading him to visit Israel and develop a devoted relationship with the nation.

2. Alicia Silverstone Wants to Know: Got Milk?

Actress Alicia Silverstone believes milk really does do a body good – and so she’s reaching out to new moms everywhere, asking them to share their breast milk with moms in need.

The hookup actress is launching a breast-milk-sharing program called “Kind Mama Milk Share.” Silverstone recently blogged about her idea, saying she wants to “support those mamas and babies who need a hand.” Silverstone says she got the idea from a new mom/friend who couldn’t produce enough milk of her own.

Silverstone, who is Vegan, writes, “If you have milk to share — post it! If you are in need of milk — post it! Think of all the babies we can help raise together!”

3. Ian Ziering Brings 90210 Cast in for Chippendales Show

What happens in Vegas stays in Vegas – unless you’re in Sin City to see an old costar take it all off on the Chippendales stage!

Shannen Doherty and Jennie Garth headed to Vegas to see Ian Ziering (their former Beverly Hills, 90210 cast mate) hit the stage for a Chippendales show at the Rio Hotel and Casino over the weekend.

Ziering, who is hookup, has been heating up the Chippendales stage for the past four weeks as a guest headliner for the famed male dance revue. Even at 49-years-old, Ziering apparently still has what it takes to make the ladies scream – check out pictures of a shirtless Ziering with Doherty and Garth here.

Get an Extreme Profile Makeover

Tamar Caspi Shnall is giving online profile makeovers. Today she’s tweaking the profile for “Alla.”

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Hi Tamar,

I would appreciate if you could take a look at my profile. I find that guys I think should be interested (those with a similar education, age, etc.) simply look at my profile and move on without contacting me. I am also finding a few slightly creepy guys or much younger guys are starting to email me! I have been on 100hookup for many years with mixed success, but seem to be having less luck connecting now than ever before. I noticed about 50% of men don’t seem to actually read my profile. You will likely suggest more pictures, and all of my pictures show me in huge sunglasses. Is it ok to get some professional shots, or is that trying too hard? Thanks for any advice!

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Hi Alla,

Yes, I think professional photos are okay as long as there are candid ones mixed in too. More on that under the PHOTOS headline.

PROFILE NAME
As you probably know I’m not a huge fan of a name or word with a bunch of letters and numbers after it. I prefer that you be a bit more original and if you want to use your first name then try to create some fun and meaningful combo of letters and/or words. So instead of, say, Tamar1B286, I would put Tamar1980 (for my birth year) or TamarSOCAL (for where I live).

PHOTOS
You’re right- you need more photos, more recent photos and more non-sunglass-wearing photos. Keep these, but add some professional ones as well as some other candid ones taken this year. As long as the professional pics don’t show you wearing the same clothes in every frame with the same background then it will be fine. Be relaxed and not too posed.

IN MY OWN WORDS
Nothing glaring stands out to me but something I noticed in another recent EPM which I didn’t like is calling your current city your home “at the moment.” My issue with it, is why would someone want to date you if you imply that you want to or could or would move? If you are looking for your beshert in your curent city then I hope that either you’d be willing to settle down there or you’d make sure the other person is willing and able to move with you as needed. Better to just explain, as you do, why you have moved so much and why you are now in your current city and leave it at that. I really like everything else you have to say as well as the way you say it.

DETAILS
You answered where you grew up in your paragraph so go ahead and answer at least where you were born or where you spent the majority of your childhood. I’d narrow down what you’re looking for because selecting every option is not the best option. If you have a paid 100hookup account then you’re more than likely not looking for a friend or an activity partner.

I think with adding and enhancing your photos then you will see a lot more activity that you’re hoping for. You’re an attractive doctor in a major Texas city, so although there are less Jews in general there you should still have no problem getting more attention once you take more pictures to better represent yourself.

Get an Extreme Profile Makeover

Tamar Caspi Shnall is giving online profile makeovers. Today she’s tweaking the profile for “Lenore.”

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Hi Tamar,

I’m on my second go-around on 100hookup and the responses from men have been underwhelming. My friends seem to have many more dates. I think I’m attractive and accomplished, so I’m thinking I need a profile makeover?

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Hi Lenore,

After a quick glance there are a few things I’d change in your profile to get the response you’re looking for.

PROFILE NAME
Although your profile name is unique, and I know it describes what you do for a living, I don’t think it’s the best fit for your 100hookup profile. You actually have some great lines throughout your profile which I would recommend using, such as: needQBfor2ndhalf or NoSuchThingAsPerfect.

PHOTOS
I like your current main photo but I strongly suggest deleting the 2nd photo. Not only is it now about a year old but since it’s a picture of a picture it is warped. Pictures less than a year old can be dated just as pictures 18 months old can still be relevant. In your case, you look like you’ve lost weight and your hair is totally different, so I’d delete the 2nd photo as you don’t look like that anymore. The 3rd and 4th are cute and fun, but now you’re lacking a supplementary photo, so get to clicking and take some pics with you smiling! Since your main photo is a posed business style headshot, try to have the new photos (2 more would be good) be more candid and relaxed.

IN MY OWN WORDS
You answer everything, which is great, but you do repeat yourself a lot. You know the phrase, “pretty girls don’t have to say they’re pretty?” or “rich people don’t say they’re rich?” well, people with lots of great friends don’t have to state it every chance they get because then it begins to read as inauthentic. You talk about how many good friends you have in About Me, so go ahead and delete the other mentions from your other answers. Also, delete the last 2 lines of About Me. The first seems incomplete and the second is unnecessary. Otherwise I like the rest of your answers, maybe reread them and try to edit them to be a bit more casual and less formal (ie. use “don’t” instead of “do not”) and make sure sentences flow well.

DETAILS
There’s nothing about your details I would change. I don’t think the issue is in your preferences or your paragraphs, I really think that your profile name and photos weren’t doing you justice and that by deleting and adding according to my instructions above you will find more success.

Don’t let the heatwave turn you into a melting, lazy mess. When it’s hot, people want to stay inside with the air conditioning cranked up and although they are online they’d rather not expend the energy to get ready and venture outside. Men find that their clothes become damp with sweat before getting out of the house and women’s make-up runs as soon as it’s applied. If you wear shorts or a skirt then your thighs end up sticking to your seat and all you want to do is chug cup after cup of ice water.

Still, don’t let the heat keep you from meeting your potential mate. Make sure you go somewhere with air conditioning and cool, refreshing foods. Poke fun at the fact that you’re both melting and don’t overthink the prep. If you like each other with your hair matted with sweat to your head or frizzed out from humidity or with sweat circles under your arms or eyeliner running down your face, then you know you’re liking each other for you and not for your appearance.