Calamities happen – large and small. People die. You miss the bus. It rains. Wars begin. Children starve. You forget your lip balm. Are these things proof that the world is falling apart? While it may seem wrong to put all of these things in the same category, they are all ways in which the world fails to conform to our desires and our plans. It may seem funny to state it this way, but really what we are saying is, “The world is good when it is doing the things that I think it should and that make me happy – and when it doesn’t, that is proof that the world is falling apart.” Stating it in this way allows us to see how limited our thinking really is. In order to have a world that makes everyone on the planet happy, we would have to have seven billion different worlds, each world tailored to the preferences of each individual human being. Obviously, in our present world, that is not the way that it goes.

As April and its wacky weather leaves us behind, I hope you 100hookuprs® are ready for the blockbuster season to start rolling in. The next month offers a torrent of superheroes, science fiction, and Sacha Baron Cohen, which can only mean one thing: summer is coming!

I hinted you might get another daring Chosen Feature this month, and I won’t disappoint.

At a book club discussion for my novel, The First Husband, a reader joked about how she kept frequenting the hotel bar where the book’s heroine, Annie Adams, met her husband, Griffin. “I’ve gone a hundred times!” she said. “Where’s my Griffin?” Everybody laughed, but her question is one I receive often from readers: How do I find my soul mate?

With thousands of profiles to choose from, how do you make the right choice? I asked friends and readers who’ve found happy relationships online for their best advice on meeting Mr. or Ms. Right:

The impression that you make on your date doesn’t just begin when you say hello. It actually begins when you suggest where to go. Those of you who follow my column regularly know that I only recommend having drinks (coffee, tea, martinis or wine) on your first date since it’s essentially more of an audition than a date. However, for a subsequent outing, you have the opportunity to really make an impression.

Here are six fresh date ideas that will not only allow you to get to know one another better, but will also impress your date with your cleverness.

When you peruse the online dating sites, many of the profiles say some variation of the exact same thing. Often, we don’t learn anything about the person we hope to date! The key to online dating is to differentiate yourself, lest you fall into “Generic Profile Land.” Some common phrases to avoid include…

In warmer parts of the world, April is a month of culinary splendor. For those of us still under a frost advisory, (if to the locavores’ chagrin) the influences still manage to infiltrate our culinary …

When it comes to creating transformation, whether or not the world is broken is a very important question. The reason why this question is so important is because transformation is created out of the ability to see wholeness and light where others only see darkness, brokenness and concealment.

According to the creation story (in several different religions), God created the world perfect and whole. Well, not quite…

It was a warm April afternoon – the kind of afternoon that said, “Kick off your shoes, pick up the Talmud, pour yourself a cup of borscht with a dollop of sour cream, and while the day away.” But I was not to have the relaxing pleasure of that kind of afternoon. Not that day. For there was a knock at the door. Oh, by the way, my name is Rabinowitz.  Shlomo Rabinowitz. And I’m a JPE — hookup Private Eye. My specialty? Affairs of the heart.

For those of you who will someday suffer from the Post Wedding Blues, I’m living proof today that you get over it. Here are some ideas for helping you reenter society as a married woman and recover from your amazing day and subsequent blues:

“Mazel tov…l’chaim…I wish for you a hundred years of success,” raps hip-hop artist Jay-Z in a music video for the 2007 song ROC Boys (And the Winner Is), a celebration of success and excess. In the widely popular comedy, Wedding Crashers, two non-hookup bachelors played by Owen Wilson and Vince Vaughn shout l’chaim!—complete with the guttural clearing-of-the-throat sound unique to Semitic languages—to a bride and groom they have just met.