Is It Okay To Ask Someone If They Are Willing To Relocate?
Dear Matchmaker Rabbi,
I met someone who seemed interested but before we had the chance to meet, I was asked very directly if I would be willing to relocate. My response was, “Not sure as we hardly know each other,” and then I was told, “My time is very valuable.” So, while still agreeing to meet him, I let him know if he could not make the appointment we had set to please let me know. And so he did try to reach me and left a cell phone message. I was left with the option to meet very briefly on a work day when it appeared more convenient for him. Very disappointing encounter, and we never met.
-Discouraged
Dear Discouraged,
Honestly? This guy sounds like a jerk. Run, don’t walk, in the other direction.
What, is your time not also valuable? If someone isn’t willing to invest time to meet, how is he going to act two or five years down the road?
My all-time favorite quote from Oprah was this one: “When someone shows you who they are, believe them.”
-The Matchmaker Rabbi
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