You want secrets for meeting women online?  Well, I am revealing yet another one of my most effective secrets for meeting women online, free of charge!

Conversation Seeding.

Before I get into the art of how this tactic can enhance your dating life, tell me if the following sounds familiar:

You meet girls online through email or Instant Messaging. You have a great conversation.  Phone numbers are exchanged. For whatever reason, you can’t really call the girl for a few days. By the time you call, she doesn’t answer! You are left wondering, “Why is this girl so flaky, and where did things go wrong?”

The truth is, the girl may not be flaky or irrational. In most cases, this comes down to a case of comfort levels disappearing.

Online dating can be scary for women. Let’s be real, there’s a lot more risk out there for women.  So when we call, women have to be completely comfortable and feel excited to answer the phone, otherwise she won’t pick up.

The problem with women not picking up when we call often occurs when contact disappears for a long time. No matter how good the conversations online were, these conversations are merely a blip on the radar of a girl’s daily life.

As days go by without talking, her comfort level with you fades more and more. When we eventually call (although these women may have initially wanted to answer) their comfort levels have dropped. They now fear the conversation will be uncomfortable, so they don’t pick up.

This becomes even more obvious when meeting girls online through Instant Messaging. You may have had the greatest 45-minute conversation, but at the end of the day, you are just a 45-minute blip on her radar. These emotions will fade fast.

The solution?

Developing conversation seeds to keep comfort and attraction high.

A conversation seed is the act of developing an inside joke during your conversations for the sole purpose of referring back to it at a later date. You are “planting the seeds” for a future conversation.

For example, I love telling bad date stories as my “conversation seed.” They are fun, and we’ve all had them. In addition, they subconsciously communicate we are different from all the other bad daters.

So let’s say I am meeting girls online through Instant Messaging. I know that I need to close a phone number after 45 minutes, or she will start to get bored. I also know that with only 45 minutes of talking, her comfort with me will fade very quickly despite the emotional highs.

Solution:  A conversation seed.

I may tell one of my famous stalker stories about a girl that wouldn’t leave me alone. I will mention this during the IM conversation (or email), make a couple of jokes, and move on.

However, my bad date story is the seed and has thus been planted. I have created an inside joke, and I will go back to this seed and make it grow at a future time.

After I receive her phone number, I will purposely not give mine. I will then text her a couple hours later, “Okay, I’ve decided to give you my phone number, just promise you won’t be my next psycho stalker! Guess who 😉 …”

I have now referred back to the seed, and we can have flirty small talk.

This will not only keep comfort levels high, but will bring our relationship from the online world into the real world. After this, I may text randomly until I eventually call. We want to contact them just enough to maintain an emotional high so that when we call, they are excited.

In addition, I have also made the transition from the online world to someone who is in her “real” life. The phone is a place reserved for people that are important in her life, so we are making an important subconscious transition emotionally.

Finally, these seeds serve as “inside jokes” between the two of you. Since they are a unique joke that only the two of you share, subconsciously she will feel as if you both have a special relationship.

And thus, the art of conversation seeds when meeting girls online!

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