If you don't want other members to know when you've looked at their profile or hot listed them, go to Profile Display Settings in Member Services and select "hide" in the section called "Show/Hide When I View Or Hot List Members."

Keep in mind that members who are most active on the site keep their profile visible in all places because it ups their chances of connecting with people. You never know, someone special may be looking for you but never find you if your profile is hidden.

Hot Lists have been a real hit on our sites and have helped bring some unsuspecting couples together! People keep telling us that they contact people simply because they saw in the hot list that a member looked at their profile. So before you hit "hide," give it a chance to work.